"What I think vs. What you think" - the eternal struggle between the sexes

As I learn more and more about who I am as an adult, I am often intrigued at how differently men and women view the same issues. I know and understand that the differences are unparalleled and it's almost impossible to simply say "We don't agree." but you are looking at two beings with genetic and social differences in perspective, interpretation, reasoning, emotions, and coping techniques, as well as other differences.  I love and appreciate that we think differently about things because when you are open to learning new ways to deal with obstacles or even excitement, you can draw new energy from a source that is connected yet detached from you.

I'm a girl. Thank you very much (taking a bow). I have been recently told that I have a heightened emotional character when dealing with relationships. Now, this is not because I'm a girl but because I'm a novice at relationships. Well, I thought I was doing pretty freaking well. lol. This is an instance where there are differences in perception. The man perceives that the woman is too emotional while the woman perceives her emotional handling of a situation much more subdued than other females and more thoughtful therefore she feels she's not doing half bad.

I'm finding that men are looking at the end result and women look at the cause and chain of events. If the end result is pain or hurt, men see and feel the hurt and aren't really sure how to get over it so they try to push it away or avoid it the conflict. Women tend to go over the events and why things happen to get some sort of rationalized reason to why the situation ended as it did.  I can go from point A to point Z and see all that I did and said and what he did and said and ultimately come to a decision of whether or not the ending result was justified or not. Yeah, way too much right???

Well fam, I'm learning. Love, though powerful and necessary, isn't the only component in a relationship. Sometimes, it seems like it's not the strongest component either but a relationship can't survive without it.
Men want to know that they can withstand the blows of a relationship. Women want to know that they both can take the hit and keep moving. I have always said that there are some things that warrant a break up or divorce but a misinterpretation of someone's message or action isn't one of those things. But I'm a woman and that's just my perception. I hope men and women can at some point in history, learn to bridge the gap of their ways of understanding but somehow, I don't see that happening. and that's my optimistic view. lol