El DeBarge, one of my favorite R&B artists, has a song called "The Other Side." I really love this song because it's so hauntingly beautiful and honest. This song has a sadness that also pulls you into, what feel like, madness of the not happy side of love.
I am pretty certain that I am not the only person in this world that has experienced the other side. It's the two sides of the same coin we are dealing with when it comes to love.
For romantic love, you will hurt and I do believe that you wouldn't hurt so much if you didn't pour your heart into loving someone. We want perfect love and because everyone interpretation of "perfect love" varies, we will never attain that which we chase so we learn to compromise but I believe that there is the point where compromise and self destruction meet. Since there is no perfect human love we itemize the things we can deal with and the things that are deal breakers when it comes to relationships. Funny thing is the more you love someone, the more the deal breakers diminish but at some point you look at how disproportionated your itemized list is and you may ask yourself "Where am I?"
We lose ourselves when we love someone so much that the only justification for staying or continuing to love is "we are human". Well, in our humanity, we are flawed and when in love our flaws are magnified. Where do you think most to all of the arguments in relationships originate from? A pointed out or acknowledged flaw or disagreement. A disagreement is not only a difference of opinion but one party basically feeling that the other party is flawed in their judgment or frame of thinking.
WE ARE NOT PERFECT! Other than God, there is not other perfect love.
Humanity has the capacity to save you or destroy that which defines it; YOU, ME. US. We are ever growing in what we think, feel and how we handle life. Love will never cease as long as we remain human. As wonderful as love can be, it can be equally debilitating to one's own heart. Some people think that heartbreak or ache is just emotion or psychological. When your heart breaks, something very real breaks in you and you can even feel it physically. Heartache is a real feeling that can make you lose your break or pass out, throw up, get headaches and many other things. For some people, the other side comes much too often and they can't fathom a good love; just the other side.
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