The mistake many of us make is tying love to physical attraction, romance, and chemistry. I've been hearing a quote lately that says, "I do not choose love based on who you can have fun with, but who will stand with you when times are hard, when you are struggling, or at your lowest points."
Granted, attraction is the draw that gets us to the point of wanting to know someone intimately (at least some times), but what next? Are you learning each other? Are you evolving together? Are you exploring the world together? Or are you relying on sex appeal to be the only thing that ties you together? Welp, news flash! Sex appeal can fade; not necessarily for everyone because (heh, heh, heh) Imma stay sexy even if it's in my own head.
Shut up! 😒
Look, my chonky butt can be changed. Sex appeal is not always physical. That's my story, and I'm sticking to it.
Again, shut up. 😑
What is also interesting is that family and friend relationships can also follow an "image alliance" mindset. I just made that up, but stay with me.
Some people (me) examine relationships and how people treat others based on a myriad of factors. Looks, empathy, attraction, confidence, compatibility, chemistry; the list can go on and on.
I am complex. I'm not saying I am uniquely complex or more complex than anyone else. Just...complex.
