(I could have just written "PURSUE LOVE" as the title but what fun would that be? (shrug))
So, in all my ranting about love and how beautiful it is and my apparent attempt at maturity when handling the embracing of or the extraction of love, I am noticing that what I know and feel are starting to slowly merge which creates a harmonious mindset. For the last week or so I've have been writing text messages to no one in particular. I don't send them to anyone but I just write them as if I were. I write to lovers lost, as well as lovers hoped for. Don't look at me like I'm crazy. This is what writers do.
*Disclaimer: The term "Lovers" does not refer to the person(s) who may engage in sexual act for the edification of physical satisfaction. (oooooo, ya'll nasty. lol) The term is used here as a person whose heart and soul calls out to you in way that is only for you. A lover is someone who is drawn for you to with and by love that is deep enough to swim away in without fear of hurt or pain. Complete and infinite love even in this finite existence.
The same way you have revelations when you verbally speak something and get that feeling like the light bulb just went off, you can receive the same when you write. What is writing but putting the thoughts you're thinking and not saying onto paper or in this case a computer or text msg. I digress. As I was typing my text to no one in particular, well the first few was for someone specific, as if I were having an exchange with them, I realized something extraordinary. I'd been receiving several messages the last few weeks about love and who loves you and what a woman (or man) should look for in a lover
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Message One: A soul mate may not be someone whom you spend the rest of you life with. This person, who may be your soul mate, may be in your life for a long time or for a short while. Their purpose for you (and yours for them) is to touch, address and help cultivate the love inside of you and help show you the best of who you are and what you can be. A love that is so deep that you two can almost visually see the same things that no others can see. The thing about a soul mate is that the love is so strong that it overshadows the importance of everything else and may actually cause problems if you focus on that particular love all the time. In other word, you lose yourself and your individuality in this love which can eventually turn into something that seems negative. A soul mate may have a shelf life. Doesn't mean you don't love them for always, it just means that their purpose has been fulfilled. It's now time to take what you've learned and make the most of your life.
Message Two: A man who loves you will do whatever he can to be with you. For the guys who are not afraid of self honesty, think about this, if you have a passion for something, be it money, cars, career success, whatever, and you want that thing, won't you plan and do all that you can to obtain it? Won't you look at your passion and say "Whatever I have to do to make this happen, I have to do it"? Won't you say, "This is so important to me and I won't rest until I have it"? If this thing that you say you desire is not really desired than you won't hesitate to let it go or reason with why you feel you have to let it go. Granted, not everything is for everyone and that, too, may be a factor (I'll get to that in a moment) but overall, if you want it, you go and get it and if it's a person you want, you do all you can to let them know you want them. If it gets difficult you say, "I still want you because you are my desire. The good and bad; I'm willing to endure." Now if she's is coming at you with a gun screaming "bloody murder" Imma need you not to want that one. Someone else is out there. lol
Message Three: A man will pursue that which he desires. Similar to my second point, this is also about doing whatever you can to get what or who you want but more than that, this point is about being in pursute of that desired thing or person. It's one thing to want or desire something but to pursue something or someone means you hunt, follow, chase, shadow, look for or run after them. All too often, women simply make themselves available or the men will just accept who is there without having to pursue it and later find that it's not what they desire or even want. The hardest thing to be is honest with yourself about why certain situations end up the way they do. Most of us place blame and fault on the other and in some instances ourselves but how many times do we actually say, "it's no one's fault. He didn't pursue me." Did he love you? I don't doubt it but it could have just been lust or just a good situation to be in.
We over think things, as you can see from this extremely long ass blog, but be objective. Don't dismiss what the other person may be thinking or what led them to their decision. Okay, some people ARE just simply assholes but both men and women have emotions. Women are just more expressive most times so ladies, in some cases, cut the brothas some slack. They aren't mind readers and sometimes don't analyze like we do. They react and if they make up in their mind they are done, that's pretty much it. Same for women, we are a little more forgiving but trust, when we are done, "That's a wrap!" So, I wrote AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAALLLLLL THAT just to say this, life is short and God knows what we need and desire. Some things we want aren't meant for us. Some things are only for a season. Some things we desire will not come easily. No matter if it's a woman, a man, a career, an idea, education, etc., PURSUE IT as if you are afraid it would leave this earth and never return and the only way to stop it is for you to grab a hold on it and never let go. I'm about to do that with several things and the first is my relationship with God. lol (I know I used some profanity but that was just for affect. O_O) I will pursue Him like my life depends on it because...it does. The rest will come.
Be good family.
