LOVE ANYWAY!

What's up, my homies?

HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY TO YOU ALL!!!

Despite the fact that people are whining about this day being a commercial holiday just to spend money, there is absolutely nothing wrong with taking a day for everyone to focus on love. Sure, sure, sure, we are supposed to love everyday and show it everyday but the truth is we get so caught up in the hum drum of everyday life we sometimes forget to show appreciation for one another. The people who are so focused on having to pay money for dinner or flowers...bammas.

Love doesn't require you to buy anything to show appreciation but there are nice things to help you to say "Babe, I appreciate you." Some couples don't celebrate the holiday and they agree it may be a waste of time. Hopefully, that couple shows love on a regular basis but if you don't, sometimes people start to wonder if they are really loved. Flowers may not necessarily prove that but the effort won't hurt.

If you are too broke to buy a flower, a card and spend time with the person you love then you have bigger problems to consider than Valentine's Day but that's a story for another time.

As for me, I like expressions of love. I like the effort made to show romantic gestures of love. I am a romantic but haven't had the opportunity to be openly romantic as much as I would like.

Valentine's Day didn't become commercial until the 19th century but has been around well before it was about purchasing cards, candies and going out paying way too much money for food for one night.

***Note: Nothing wrong with purchasing cards, candies, and going out paying way too much money for food for one night. I'm just saying.***

I'm not stupid and I know people are so afraid to spend money on Valentine's Day so they poo poo it but man, oh, man. Some of the best gifts are things that take thought, effort, time and love. Please don't forget the love part. Don't let the person think you're going to express love for them and you say some crap like "I really like you. We're good together." or sigh your card "Happy Valentine's Day! From ..."

BITCH, YOU BETTER PUT SOME LOVE ON THAT DAMN CARD. LOL

Please sign it "Love, ..." or "I love you. Love..." because if she/he doesn't see the word "love" on the card it WILL hurt their feelings. I know it doesn't make sense to some people (and trust, many guys are just as or more sensitive as some women) but if you know your girl/guy like hearing the words...please say them if you love them. I'm just trying to help you out.

***NOTE: IF YOU DO NOT LOVE THE PERSON, DO NOT SAY "I LOVE YOU." DELAYED HURT FEELINGS ARE STILL HURT FEELINGS. BE HONEST. OKAY, YOU DIDN'T HEAR ME. TELL...THE...TRUTH! OKAY. SEEMS I HAVE TO SAY IT LIKE THIS FOR SOMEONE TO GET IT.

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OH, AND DO NOT BE A DOUCHE AND LEAD THEM ON.
don't tell them they are the love of your life then tell someone else the same thing. Don't say words you don't mean. Don't lie just to get sex. Don't let them believe you are all in for them and your heart isn't really there. Save the drama and be up front about feeling. I mean don't wait until Valentine's day but you know what I mean.

Okay, I seem to have gone off the rails so let me refocus. lol

Love is wonderful. Despite whether you like the holiday or not, if your loved one likes or loves it, make the effort. Relationships are not about always doing what the other person wants but you do have to lay down your feelings every once in a while to indulge the pleasure and happiness of your mate. When you love someone and like to see them happy just take one for the team and indulge WITH them.

Oh, how was my Valentine's Day? Thanks for asking. Ha!

The thing about love is that you can express and show love for almost anyone. Wife, husband, girlfriend, boyfriend, Mom, Dad, siblings, etc.; you get it. I chose to spend the weekend with my cousin that I don't get to see often. From Friday night to Sunday night (Valentine's evening) we had a wonderful time just talking, going out to different restaurants and eating GREAT food, drinks, movies and other fun things. The thing about Valentine's Day is that it has become about more than romantic love. It is the celebration of love...period. I enjoyed this weekend. I have to say it has been the best Valentine's Day I've ever had. That's great but terrible. lol

I'll conclude with this: Don't wait for someone to come and show you love and affection on a day that celebrates all that love is. Love yourself enough to promise yourself to purposely be happy. I have been sad many times but I have grown to know that I have the power to change my mood and attitude about how I feel by actively being a part of the plan for happiness for my life. You can be happy, too. Find someone who loves you just for being you and spend time with them enjoying life. If you're single, it may be tough but embrace your inner self and you define your happiness. It's so fulfilling and even if you get sad you can draw from what you have learned about yourself and what makes you happy. GO! Be happy! Spread love...to everyone especially yourself.